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Do you find the same “Groundhog day” discussion or disagreement with your partner keeps coming up, escalating into a row and spoiling an otherwise good relationship?

Would you like to stop those eye rolling moments where you think “here we go again” yet you both seem powerless to get out of this hurtful, destructive cycle by yourselves?

In couples counselling the three of us take an objective, non-judgemental look at the relationship you and your partner have created between you. We acknowledge what each likes and enjoys about it, investigate what drives those upsetting cycles and share what each would like to be different.

The aim is to help you both make sense of what is really going on in your relationship. 9 times out of 10, the issue ISN’T the thing you’re scrapping about but how each of you feels about the thing. We’ll get at what deeper, older emotional wounds, vulnerabilities, expectations or resentments are flaring up in the hope that, through this better mutual understanding, you each feel a softening towards the other and are motivated to find a kinder, more constructive pattern of relating as a result.

Packages

The first session is a 50 minute non-chargeable “Chemistry Test” session for you and your partner to see if you feel you can trust and work with me and for me to be sure I am the best support for you. The session will be structured so it should feel very safe and contained.

Thereafter sessions are £80 per 60 minute session.

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About Me

What motivates me is supporting couples to find their way back to happiness and I have no agenda about what that pathway, or the outcome, may be.

Complex modern life, the non-negotiable need of children for our love and attention and a constant feeling there is not enough time can mean we and our partner gradually shift out of the role we actually auditioned each other for, that of companion, safe-haven, adult playmate and lover into the role of highly efficient teammates executing tasks. Neither is getting what they need from the other now because both are caught up in “doing duty”.

Often no one notices this shift to start with then sometimes one partner becomes aware of it, repeatedly tries to draw attention to it and is not responded to in the way they long for. Little by little, day by day, this erodes emotional, and often sexual, connection, one or both partners find themselves deeply unhappy and if the situation is left unaddressed too long, the romantic fire can go out. Happily the saying “a stitch in time saves nine” also applies.

I run a private practice from my base in Oatlands, Weybridge. I am qualified to degree level in Integrative Relational Counselling and I am a registered and accredited member of the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP). Before training as a counsellor I worked for 28 years in the private sector so I have insight into the stresses and strains of balancing work and life as well as experience of the ups and downs of life, and relationships, generally.

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